by Ariela Zucker
I stir my morning coffee and while the milk swirls and changes the color from dark brown to tan I reflect on a sentence that I read on the front page of Yahoo.
“Human connections are important. Try to encompass at least ten of them every day.”
I wonder if I can accomplish this challenge without leaving my home on this dreary rainy day.
1. The first thing I do is look at my cellphone: David from 7 cups is looking for me.
2. I log into the site that connects volunteer listeners and members who need a captive listening ear. David and I have a short conversation about his aspirations to take on the world. He says he likes to talk to me, and this time he ends the conversation by himself. I joke about "David and Goliath;" he gets it and sends a smiley.
3. I check my online writing group, no one responded to my last post, so I move on.
4. I send the daily Hebrew word to Sara. Later she will send me a letter composed of these words. Today’s word: The eye of the storm. She texts me a thumbs-up.
5. An email from Beth. She just found in her DNA test that we are third cousins twice removed and is overcome with excitement. I suggest a few possible surnames for her to check. "None fits," she writes back, adding an icon of a sad face.
6. An unknown caller from Honolulu. A formal, somewhat scary male voice announces that I should call back in the next 10 minutes; otherwise, the police will intervene. I know it is a prank call, but for a brief moment, it stops my breathing, what if it is true?
Fifty-five minutes passed, and I scored six interactions, I am pleased and reward myself with another cup of coffee and a donut.
7. In my Facebook, I find two birthday announcements and a picture from two years ago of my dog the day we got him. I send birthday wishes and marvel at how small he was only a short time ago.
8. I sit down to write a long-delayed letter to my pen pal in Scotland. We’ve been corresponding for over twenty years. We’re doing it in the good old-fashioned way; paper, envelope, stamp then a long wait.
9. My daughter calls to ask for a recipe. I pull out my cookbook that is held together with will power and sticky fingers and read the ingredients to her. This is an old recipe my mother used to make. I am happy to pass it on and keep the generational food connection alive.
10. Outside on my bird-feeder, yellow Goldfinch shares the grains with a small red squirrel. Above them, on a bent branch, a blazing red Cardinal performs its warning metallic chip. Patches of bright colors against the gray backdrop. I snap a quick picture. Later I will post it on Facebook.
Ariela Zucker was born in Israel. She and her husband left sixteen years ago and now reside in Ellsworth Maine where they run a Mom and Pop motel. This post originally appeared on her blog at Paper Dragon.
Patricia Roop Hollinger says
I am curious how you connected to be a “volunteer listener.” I am a retired Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and am interested in using my skills via this method. This morning I watched birds making a nest in the ferns that I have on my balcony. When I lived in the woods my kitchen window afforded me many hours of bird watching and bird feeding.
arielazucker says
Hi Patricia,
Just log into their site:
https://www.7cups.com
They have 2 options; one is to be a volunteer listener which is what I do. The second is for professionals who get paid but I don’t know anything about it.
I’ve been a volunteer since 2017 and most of the time I like it.
If you have more questions to me you can write to my email;
ldplus4u@yahoo.com
Ariela
thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
Enjoyed this post Ariela – never really think about how many connections we make in a day – now you have me thinking.
I do that every once in a while, stop to value all the people I speak to during a day and feel fortunate.