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July 2 – One Woman Remembering Another

July 2, 2019 by Kali 6 Comments

by Debra Dolan

I am writing this on Canada Day delighted in knowing that my darling Michael's mother’s remarkable life is honoured in our national newspaper.  There is a wonderful regular feature titled "Lives Lived" which "celebrates the everyday, extraordinary, unheralded lives of Canadians who have recently passed".  Margaret was a proud American-Canadian who was many things to many people.  I submitted an essay for consideration; therefore, my day, today is finding joy in remembering her loving presence in my life during the past 17 years.  

Margaret Leonebel (Chiefy) Jackson Frizell

Margaret spent her youth in the lush interior mountains of China, where her father worked. The Second World War forced her American family to return to Santa Barbara, Calif. It was here that she graduated from Mills College. Later she studied at the Sorbonne in Paris and travelled through Europe. While working as a French teacher at a children’s camp on Vancouver Island, she met Charles George (Chip) Frizell, the lodge’s dishwasher. Chip was a young, war-shattered man from the United Kingdom who had fought in the Battle of Britain and recited poetry from memory. They were a remarkable pair of beguiling individuals.

For more than 65 years they were a formidable team, building homes on Mayne Island, B.C., and in Point Roberts, Wash. They raised three sons, Michael, Paul, and Mark. Margaret was an untraditional homemaker, wife, and mother. She wore pants, smoked cigars, ignored housework and shared coffee with the mailman in broad daylight. And she created a home full of love and acceptance, providing a place for neighbourhood children to play and enjoy fresh baking. Later, it was bacon and eggs in the middle of the night for young men returning from parties drunk or stoned.

As her nickname suggests, Chiefy was indeed the boss. She never sweated the small stuff and picked her battles in a household of boys and men carefully; however, once she made a decision about what was important, she was a force to be reckoned with. Chiefy was a fierce defender of her sons, who she loved with every fibre of her being.

Chiefy had a wild and fascinating mind. She had an iron will and was connected to the strong values of her Catholic faith. In her presence, you felt special: She would tilt that head covered in cotton-candy-textured white hair and listen respectfully and intently. In the 1960s she wrote radio plays for the CBC and was a talented iconographer.

Margaret had a great fondness for cookbooks, which she read with the tenacity of novels, and amassed a large collection. Chiefy could be whimsical and silly; joyful and optimistic. She also demonstrated a tremendous fondness for martinis, butter, Hawaii and all things Parisian.

Her end was sudden. After a full day, attending mass, lunch with Michael and enjoying a drive along the beach, Chiefy suffered a stroke and died a few days later. She is buried next to Chip, who died in 2014, in the Gardens of Gethsemane.

"We are important and our lives are important, magnificent really, and these details are worthy to be recorded." - Natalie Goldberg

Debra Dolan lives on the west coast of Canada, is a long time (45+ years) private journal writer, and an avid reader of women’s memoir. She has been a member of Story Circle Network since 2009.

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Kalí Rourke is a full-time philanthropist and volunteer in the Austin, Texas area and has lent her writing, public speaking, and social media skills to many local nonprofits, including Story Circle Network. She is a wife, mom, "Gigi" to her awesome grandkids, a professional singer, and an advocate for mentoring in all of its forms. 

Filed Under: Debra Dolan Tagged With: family, memoir, mothers, Women Writing, Women's Stories

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  1. Debra Dolan says

    July 2, 2019 at 11:14 am

    Thank you for posting. There can be such joy in the remembering. I am in awe of the many remarkable lives that have touched mine.

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  2. Patricia Roop Hollinger says

    July 2, 2019 at 12:05 pm

    What a rich life she lived. Makes me want to travel abroad more than I have my next lifetime. At age 80 I just hope that I can leave the earth plane as quickly as she did.

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    • Debra Dolan says

      July 2, 2019 at 1:09 pm

      Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. In the last number of years I have not had the same mobility I once did; not age yet injury related. I consider myself an “armchair” traveller now through books or movies or intranet searches. I believe you could have many-many travel experiences in this way. Happy Summer!

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  3. Mary Jo Doig says

    July 3, 2019 at 4:06 pm

    Thank you, Deb, for this lovely portrait of Michael’s mother’s life. I’m thrilled to know her through you and thank you so much for sharing her story with us, with me! xo

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  4. arielazucker says

    July 4, 2019 at 4:01 pm

    Very interesting portrait of rich life. I enjoyed reading it.

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  5. Mary Jo Doig says

    July 6, 2019 at 8:44 pm

    What a wonderful woman you have showcased, Debra. Thank you. I’m honored to know her.

    Reply

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