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May 20 – And The Winner Is…

May 20, 2019 by Kali 6 Comments

by Kali' Rourke

2018 Austin Under 40 Awards

I have been involved in mentoring since 2005 when Austin Independent School District Principals asked the nonprofit I was working with for a mentor program for children who had lost a parent to prison. You see, in public schools, when a child loses a parent for any other reason (divorce, death, etc.), all sorts of programs and help snap into place for them. This does not happen when Dad or Mom is hauled off in handcuffs and life changes in an instant.

I dove into an area of service to children that taught me a great deal, I saw the program grow and flourish as President of the Board of Seedling, and then I began mentoring personally. My first mentee was a first-grade girl that I was blessed to know through fourth grade before her family moved away.

Now, I mentor a kindergartener who is processing her new reality, and I hope to be with her for years to come. I mentored a young woman through the Austin Young Women's Alliance Connect program last year, and she has become another daughter to me, and I have added another YWA Connect mentee this year who is one of the most positive people I have ever known. All of these girls and women are unique, smart, fun, and gave me at least as much as I gave them. Really good stuff!

2017 Austin Under 40 Awards

Last year I was nominated for Mentor of the Year by the Austin Under 40 Awards that are sponsored by YWA and the Young Men's Business League and I was one of five finalists. (Mentor of the Year is the only award they give to those of us who are over 40 and no, I did not win!)

This year I was nominated again, named a finalist, and last night was the Gala where the winners were announced. My two YWA Mentees and my older daughter were at my finalist table, along with my wonderful husband and a dear friend from the Seedling Board who had written a recommendation for me.

I did not win. It was not a big surprise to me, considering the amazing finalists in my category, but it allowed me to reflect on the influence mentoring can have. Role modeling and mentoring in success feels natural, but mentoring through loss, failure, and challenge can be much harder if you let it. I think, however, that it may be one of the most impactful places from which to mentor.

For women and girls who may not have opportunities to see and learn what losing gracefully looks like, through sports or other competition, observing a Mentor's loss can be a powerfully positive experience for them to share.

Kali’ Rourke is a wife, mother, writer, singer, volunteer, philanthropist, and a proud Mentor. She blogs at Kali’s Musings and A Burning Journey – One Woman’s Experience with Burning Mouth Syndrome.

Kalí Rourke is a full-time philanthropist and volunteer in the Austin, Texas area and has lent her writing, public speaking, and social media skills to many local nonprofits, including Story Circle Network. She is a wife, mom, "Gigi" to her awesome grandkids, a professional singer, and an advocate for mentoring in all of its forms. 

Filed Under: Kalí Rourke, True Words from Real Women Tagged With: Celebration, Reflection, Women's Stories

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  1. Susan Schoch says

    May 20, 2018 at 11:23 am

    Wonderful insight, Kali’, that being an example of how to handle losing is at least as important as being a model of success. Great work you’re doing, and an inspiring post.

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    • kalipr says

      May 20, 2018 at 1:11 pm

      Thanks, Susan!

      Reply
  2. SARA says

    May 20, 2018 at 3:33 pm

    Way to go! Such lessons in grace and humility come from losing. Powerful lessons indeed. thanks for sharing

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    • kalipr says

      May 20, 2018 at 4:43 pm

      Thanks, Sara!

      Reply
  3. Barbara L Miller says

    May 21, 2018 at 1:36 pm

    Thanks for sharing about Seedlings. I heard about the program just yesterday at a Rotary function. Now with your article, I will follow up.

    Reply
    • kalipr says

      May 21, 2018 at 2:34 pm

      How exciting! Seedling Mentoring is very unique, and I am always comfortable recommending it to people as a highly supported mentoring experience. Let me know how it goes for you!
      Kali’

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